A Christian wedding is a haram gathering

6.1.5.3.1 Engagement and marriage

Islam knows the engagement. During this phase, the engaged couple are allowed to meet in public and talk about their life plans, etc. This phase serves to get to know each other and to learn more about the way of thinking and nature of the future life partner. The Islamic sources hold the family responsible for the stability of the social structure. If a Muslim is able to meet the requirements and obligations of marriage, he or she is responsible for starting a family. Extramarital relations for both the man and the woman are forbidden. A renunciation of sexual life as in monasticism is rejected by the basic Islamic sources. Alongside the creation of a stable social structure and the legitimate satisfaction of the sex drive, the procreation of offspring is a fundamental purpose of marriage.

A wedding celebration, as the Prophet Mohammed still practiced it, often differs from what has meanwhile developed from their own traditions in the various Islamic countries. According to the Sunnah, when the bride and groom and their families decide to marry, the Nikah ceremony is held in the mosque (but it can also be done in writing). The imam of the mosque or another representative asks the groom or his deputy whether he agrees to marry the bride and whether he is willing to pay the bride the morning gift (traditionally six months' salary to secure the bride's finances). After the consent of the husband, the wali (agent) of the bride is also questioned. (The bride herself must have given the wali her consent to the marriage, she herself does not appear in person during the nikah in order to avoid inconvenience (being stared at etc.).)

Afterwards, the Imam either gives a short speech or he just recites the prescribed khutba (address) that the Prophet used to give at such events (but this khutba is given in any case). Afterwards there will be a silent prayer of all those present.

As mentioned, there are also different customs and traditions in the various countries with an Islamic character. It is not steadfast on the part of a male guest to greet the bride with a handshake or in a similar way. However, the groom is usually hugged. In general, the law of parda (gender segregation) should be observed, i. That is, it is not allowed for a male guest to attend the women's meeting and vice versa for a woman to attend the men's meeting.

In Germany it is common to invite friends and relatives as well as German neighbors, for example. These are then often special guests and are usually treated particularly politely.